HOW TO PUT YOURSELF IN A GOOD MOOD NATURALLY (AND DAILY!)

Do you ever wish that you could be in a good mode more often?   Do you see people smiling, laughing and looking stress-free and wish that you could have what she’s having.  

You can!  

 You can put yourself in a GOOD mood – naturally!   This means you will yell less, have more patience, and just feel happier, so you can be the happy mom that you want to be! 

 

HOW TO PUT YOURSELF IN A GOOD MOOD NATURALLY (AND DAILY!)   

Let’s start by looking at how moods are created… both good & bad.  There are actually three ways for moods to happen:

1. Without even realizing it.
2. If something happens to cause a good mood (or a bad mood)
3. Because of choosing to take control of your mood, and deliberately changing it to what you want it to be.

IT STARTS WHEN YOU WAKE UP.

I want you to think back to when you woke up this morning… 
What was it that woke you up? A baby?  A child?  A phone call?  Your alarm?  The sunlight coming into your room?   Did you wake up on your own?   What kind of mood did this put you in?

Oftentimes, people are put into a bad mood immediately if they find themselves waking up thinking something like: “Oh man… I have to get up, but I just want to keep sleeping.” 

Or…

“Oh no!  I just remembered that I forgot to…”

These will really get you in a mood, right?  However, it’s not the good mood that we were hoping for.   It’s no wonder… anyone would be grumpy if that’s how they woke up, filled with anxiety.  If you start the day with an ‘Uh oh’ or ‘oh no’, the bad or sour mood that it creates can actually have a strong negative effect on your entire day as well as on your entire well being.

If you do not intervene with this, you have just decided that other things will go wrong and feel wrong and it can also create stress all through your day.

HOW CAN YOU TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR MOODS AND BE A HAPPIER PERSON?

CATCH YOURSELF IN THE ACT

Most people have this thinking habit that puts them in a bad mood.  If you find yourself doing the following negative thought habits, make yourself STOP. Don’t always beat yourself for some simple things that you’ve done for the day.

• Worrying
• Regretting
• Self-Criticism

You might consider telling yourself that you are not supposed to waste your time blaming yourself for simple things, instead think of something much better.

FOCUS  ON THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS

You can actually create positive thinking habits and create a discipline of thinking only positive thoughts.  There are a few ways to get started:

• Make your own gratitude journal
• Write down the things that you are thankful for.
• Get in the habit of appreciating and acknowledging people and things around you.
• Think about your future (later that day, tomorrow, in a week, in a year) and make sure it is positive.

The time spent on thinking positive thoughts is a time well-spent.  

CHANGE YOUR LANGUAGE

Changing your language is also a great way to put yourself in a good mood. Your word, spoken out loud or to yourself or in your own thoughts, actually have great influence and power on your mood.

Phrases such as ‘I can’t….’ can affect your mood.   Try replacing this with ‘I can… ‘Or even ‘I choose to…’ and you will notice a difference in how you feel.  Remember… the way that you talk, think and act all impact your family.  When you are in a good mood, you have the power to help your family be in a good mood, as well.  

Moods are contagious .

Just watch how  your positive thinking and happy attitude tranform your family's day.

5 Ways To Maintain A Positive Mindset (No Matter What Challenge You're Facing)

When it comes to building something of value -- whether that's a business, a joint venture, a brand, or even yourself as an individual -- the most important thing to remember is that "challenge" is part of the process.

All too often, people seek the easy road, as if that's the path they would prefer to travel.  The truth is, it's not.  You don't learn anything when the wind is always at your back.  You don't improve your problem-solving skills when there's never a problem to solve. 

1. Someone else has run into this issue before -- and solved it

99.9 percent of the problems out there have existed before you.  Chances are, you aren't reinventing the wheel.  Whenever you are confronted with a challenge, take a moment and realize that someone else, somewhere, has most likely run into this exact same challenge -- and they've found a way through it.

The best thing you can do is to read.  Read and study your craft, your industry, and the problems other people have endured on their own quests forward.  Read and learn from their mistakes, and then apply what you've learned to your own unique situation.

2. Nothing is "impossible"

Some might say it is impossible for a human being to breathe underwater.  Ok, well what if you wore a snorkel?  What if you had an oxygen tank connected to your back?  What if you used a submarine? 

The solution you're looking for might come in a variety of different forms.  Be open to that.  There are very, very, very few things that are technically "impossible." 

3. There's always a solution

Building off the second point here, it's important to remember that there is always a solution -- you just haven't found it yet. 

Most people resort to stressful behavior whenever they're put in a challenging situation.  "This is never going to work!" they shout, and the rest of the people nods and follows along with similar remarks.  This sort of thinking does nothing to help you or your team move forward.

Instead, say to yourself (and your cohort), "We will figure this out -- there is a solution."  Get the tide moving in that direction, and you'll be amazed by what obvious answers suddenly rise to the surface.

4. Ask someone more experienced than you

You don't solve problems in a vacuum -- a.k.a. sitting in a dark room thinking about what the answer should be.  You solve problems by interacting with people, throwing ideas at the wall, and seeing what sticks.

When you run into a challenge, use your network as a resource.  Everyone has faced their own unique set of challenges in their time, and it's beneficial to learn from other people's mistakes.  Don't try to do everything on your own.  It's not efficient, and rarely necessary.

5. "What's coming at you is what's coming from you"

 Whenever something went wrong and everyone was freaking out, they would take their stress out on other people -- to which those people would respond the same way back, and the whole thing would escalate.

It's important, especially when faced up against an obstacle, that you realize whatever you start offering energetically to the situation is what will come back to you.  If you remain open and in a positive problem-solving state, then the answers will float your way.  If you close off and start blaming other people, then guess what -- people are going to start blaming you too.

Control your state. Control your Mind.  And you will inevitably control the outcome.

Stay positive

Good Luck

What To Do When Bored??

What To Do When Bored?

There's no shame in being bored. Whenever you find yourself with not so much to do — or not so many places to go — it's natural to get a bit antsy. The first day or so is gold: you sleep in, enjoy a luxurious breakfast, and, of course, watch your favorite TV shows. But then, it happens. You run through all the best movies on Netflix, find yourself pacing between the fridge and the couch, and the walls start to feel a little closer than they were before. You've started feeling bored. Instead of sitting around on your phone getting lost in the news and social media (and slowly losing your mind), pivot to some fun things you can do at home or in your own backyard. I’ve rounded up the best things to do when you’re bored, depending on your mood. From board games and self-care to indoor gardening and organizing, these exciting activities will keep you entertained no matter how long you're stuck inside.  

Fun activities to do when stuck inside

Put together an epic puzzle. When you've got lots of time on your hands, get your hands busy. It'll take your mind off boredom, and completing a big puzzle feels great.

Play a board game. Turn off the TV and challenge the family to a board game. Introduce the kids to a classic like Snake N Ladders or Monopoly, Ludo, Carrom, or try a newer one like Settlers of Catan that you can all learn together.

Sing along to some songs alone or with kids. Get your endorphins flowing by taking it back to childhood. Belt out your favorite musical hits from Disney movies or any song you love to teach your kids. Believe it, you will have a great time.

Build a fort. Kids know this already: The couch cushions or a few chairs and blankets make an awesome wonderland. Embrace your inner child, or let your kids show you the way.

Get a workout in. You don't need a gym membership to sweat it out. Pull-on your favorite leggings, choose a workout app and get your blood moving.

Write a letter. In the age of text messages and FaceTime, we don't write out our feelings in long-form. Get out some nice paper and spread some love to a friend or family member.

Watch a sports game. No sports on TV? Queue up some classic old games. And watching with kids or family can be really fun.

Call a friend. If you're usually a text person, pick up the phone or video call a faraway friend. The extra connection really makes you feel closer.

Watch a performance. Instead of turning on Netflix, watch an online tabla, sitar, or classical dance performance.

Learn a new language. Thanks to apps like Duolingo, you can stretch your mental muscles wherever you are.

Watch a movie solo. Getting whatever snacks you want, hoarding the couch, and laughing or crying as loud as you want: Movies make an excellent date for one.

Have a dance party. Turn on some tunes and get those socks hoppin'. Throw it back with oldies from your glory days or find some hot new stuff to shake your booty. In this lockdown or social distancing time, you can do a zoom dance party, ever thought of that, Try it once.

Learn a dance. Download any dance tutorial app or Youtube video and challenge yourself to learn one of the trending dances everyone is doing.

Play a video game. If you don't have a gaming console, try some of the fun new games that are added to the app store on your phone every day.

Creative Things to do indoors

Change up your décor. From the bedroom to the living room to the kitchen, we have countless ideas to help give your home a quick and easy makeover. Even just rearranging your furniture a little will feel fresh.

Make some wall art. You don't need to be a master painter to DIY some of these fabulous wall decor ideas.

Try a new recipe. Stop opening and closing the fridge hoping new snacks will magically appear. Take matters into your own hand and make your own tasty dish.

Start a new book. If you've run through your TV queue, go analog. Try one of the best books of the year to transport yourself to another world.

Try a coloring app. Adult coloring books are available in-stores and in mobile app stores, so no need to head to the store. Colorfy and Happy Color will help you get creative without any supplies needed.

Make a custom photo book. You don't need the talent of Michaelangelo to create a memorable photo book. A variety of online services can help you collect your photos into a beautiful keepsake.

Bake cookies. Choose a healthy cookie recipe so you can feel good every time you reach for one.

Make homemade ice cream. Give Ben & Jerry a run for their money and beat boredom. Simply combine a few ingredients in an ice cream maker and you'll be in awe.

Work on your wish list. Go ahead, dream big for the next holiday. Put together a wish list of items (or experiences) you have your eye on, so you'll never be caught off guard.

Become a YouTube star. Pretend you're Sanjeev Kapoor and film your own cooking show, or teach the camera how to DIY a craft or organization technique. The lifestyle of the rich and famous awaits.

Put together a care package. Take the focus off your own predicament by making a friend or family member feel extra special. Mail them a package full of their favorite things, perhaps with a theme like self-care.

Indoor stress-relief activities

Paint your nails. Create an at-home spa experience with a mani-pedi. Choose a trending summer hue, add an interesting design, and finish it off with a shiny topcoat.     

Take a bubble bath. Embrace your free time with a mountain of bubbles and a few drops of essential oils. Bring a good book in there with you, if you don't mind it getting a tad damp

Try out a new hairstyle or experiment with your hair. It is definitely going to give your life a fresh kick and maybe you discover something interesting about you.

Do a face mask. For a quick pick-me-up, apply a nourishing face mask. You can choose one to target several issues, including dry skin, acne, or to brighten up a dull complexion. Whatever ails you, there's a mask for that.

Start journaling. Time will fly by as you jot down your thoughts in a journal. If you want to go even deeper, venture into the artistic world of bullet journals.

Listen to a meditation video. When your mind starts to spiral, turn it inward. Mediation videos can easily guide you through mindful exercises and techniques to reach inner peace.

Try living room yoga. In addition to strengthening your whole body, yoga helps center your mind. You can do it at home with no equipment using a free app, too.

Do Zumba. There's something about this structured dance party that is sure to lift your spirits.

Organizing activities to pass time

Clean out your closet. Go through your clothes to rediscover some old favs. If you haven't worn it in the past year, consider posting it on a clothing resale app or needy so it can find a new home.

Organize your kitchen. You're ready to dive into the wonderful world of drawer and cabinet organizers. Please hold the applause.

Spruce up your outdoor space. Out of sight, it's out of mind, but outdoor spaces also deserve a little attention. Maybe now's the time to shop for new outdoor furniture and accent pieces for those summer get-togethers.

Spot-treat your white shoes. White shoes pretty much go with every outfit, but only if they stay that way. Making some effort for their maintenance is a good idea.

Shop for new essentials. Whether you need to stock up on more cleaning products or your bed is ready for new sheets, grab a notepad or your Notes app and take a lap around the house to see what you need.

Give an old piece new life. Maybe you've got an old chair that never quite fit, or odds n' ends that could become something else. Go ahead, DIY it.

Tackle a trouble spot. You know that corner that hasn't been organized since you moved in? Use your free time to fix it.

Scour your whole house. When we get bored, we often feel helpless. But tackling even the simplest task, like doing the dishes, can boost your mood immediately. Start with these easy cleaning tips or try a full schedule to tackle every inch of the house.

Shine the windows. You'll be amazed how much brighter things look with sparkling clean windows. Let the sunshine in with these tips for the best results.

Wash your makeup brushes. When was the last time you cleaned all of your makeup tools? Yes, even your ride-or-die Beautyblender could use a scrub. Your skin will thank you.

Sort through your purses. As the season change, so do our purses. While switching between bags, we all leave stuff in the bottom (receipts, gum wrappers, pens, etc). Clean out your purses and you just might find that lost lipstick – or at least some spare change.

Clean out your closet. Go through your clothes to rediscover some old favs. If you haven't worn it in the past year, consider posting it on a clothing resale app so it can find a new home.

Outdoor activities to do when you're bored

Enjoy the food outdoors. Take your lunch to the backyard or patio to get a little vitamin D while you indulge. A glass of wine/juice doesn't hurt either.

Go for a long walk. Plan a route past your favorite landmarks, a local park, or just around the neighborhood. Stop and smell the flowers – literally.

Take your pet to the park. Whether you have a lively dog, an adventurous cat, or even a sweet rabbit, they'll appreciate a wander with their favorite person.

Start a garden. Roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty in the backyard or your windowsill, if you don't have outdoor space. In addition to the de-stressing benefits, all that digging quickly turns into a workout.

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Go for a bike ride. Take a tour of your surroundings and get some exercise by jumping on a bicycle.

Take a drive. You don't need a destination — just a great playlist and the open road. 

Have a backyard campout. Pitch a tent between your back gardens or terrace and see your outdoor space in a whole new way. Or if the weather isn't cooperating, do the same in your own living room.

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NEUROSCIENCE AND DECISION-MAKING POWER

Neuroscience and Decision-making power

Neuroscience reveals what appears to be instinctive is actually the result of deliberate practice and extensive experience.

Practice and experience allow the brain to match a pattern and respond appropriately without conscious thought. What we think as intuition isn't intuition at all. 

Remember the time when you had to make a difficult decision and it ended up being the right one? Well, what was the process your brain went through to make that decision? In this article, we’ll find out about what is the decision-making process is and how it works.

The decision-making process

There is a 7-step process involved in the decision-making process.

• Step 1: Identify the decision. This is the step when you realize that a decision needs to be made. For example, “Should I order some take-out Chinese food tonight?”

• Step 2: Collect relevant information. This second step involves gathering information that is essential and important to the decision before the decision is made. This information includes: what information is needed, the sources to get the information from, and then how to get the information. This second step uses both internal and external efforts. The internal effort involves finding information through a process of self-assessment. The external effort comes from finding the information from outside sources like books, other people, and the internet. For example, finding a Chinese food restaurant that meets your needs.

• Step 3: Identify the alternatives. This third step involves the likelihood that you have found other possible choices to make the decision. This step means using creativity and finding desirable alternatives. For example, realizing you could also go to the restaurant to pick-up the food, or even order something different, such as Italian food.

• Step 4: Weigh the evidence. Using the information gathered and the emotions that you have, this step involves imagining each alternative to the choice until the effects of the decision to wear off and are no longer effective. It’s essential to think about whether or not they need in Step 1 will be met or figured out by each alternative. During the process of Step 4 and weighing the evidence and options, your brain will begin to favor those that have a higher potential for reaching your end goal. At the end of Step 4, the alternate choices will be ordered based on your own value system. For example, if by getting Chinese food as delivery, I won’t need to leave home. However, it would be healthier to walk to the restaurant a few blocks away and get the food.

• Step 5: Choose among the alternatives. Once all of the evidence is weighed, Step 5 kicks in and finalizes the choices. This means that your choice is made. For example, deciding to walk to the restaurant to pick up the take-out order.

• Step 6: Taking action. By taking action in Step 6, you’re simply implementing and putting into action the choice in Step 5. For example, walking to the restaurant to pick up the food.

• Step 7: Reviewing the decision and its consequences. This means the decision is made and it’s time to evaluate whether or not they need in Step 1 was met or not. For example, the fact that you know have Chinese food take-out for dinner tonight means that the decision was successful.

But there are times we take decision without knowing that we are taking any decision. It is in just fraction of seconds. It's involuntary. So for such involuntary, intuitive decisions, another pattern of decision making follows, which you will find at the end of the article.

Decision Making Process

As Jeff Haden states, Chess grandmasters sometimes perform exhibitions where they simultaneously play -- and win -- multiple games of speed chess while blindfolded. Clearly, they can memorize each board.

Or not.

In a famous study, Adriaan de Groot asked expert and novice chess players to view a position for a few seconds and then reconstruct it from memory. When the position was one that could occur in real games, the experts performed significantly better than novices.

But when the position was created by placing pieces at random, the experts performed no better than novices.

Why? The experts had seen and analyzed countless chess positions. They knew and recognized patterns and instinctively connected a new pattern to ones they already knew.

But they couldn't relate a random pattern to anything they knew.

In short, chess grandmasters aren't necessarily better at memorizing positions. But they are definitely better at recognizing positions. They've taken advantage of what, neuroscience calls chunking, parsing, and grouping information in the most efficient way possible.

As Barbara Oakley, an engineering professor at Oakland University and whose Learning How to Learn is a hugely popular online course, says, "Chunking is the mother of all learning ... when you know something so well that it is basically a snap to call it to mind and do it or use it. Creating neural patterns -- neural chunks -- underpins the development of all expertise."

In short, extensive practice and deep experience help experts make what appear to be instinctive decisions. They know -- without thinking about why they know.

That's why experienced doctors can often, within seconds, arrive at an accurate diagnosis. Why experienced investors can make quick decisions about a trade or position. Why experienced leaders can quickly read a team and grasp the interpersonal dynamics and conflicting agendas that took years to form. 

And that's how Steve Jobs could walk back into Apple and immediately decide which products to cut to save the company. Jobs had spent years engrossed in design, usability, quality, branding ... Through deliberate practice and extensive experience, Jobs had become an expert in technology strategies, consumer behavior, and branding. 

The results? He could make quick, seemingly instinctive decisions about a product's value. He knew, without having to know why he knew.

And so can you. The ability to make quick decisions isn't a skill you either have or don't have; it's a skill that results from extensive, ongoing practice. So intuition is nothing but persistent practice and sub-conscious observations we make.

Neural chunks help to make good decisions, at speed. 

When Jobs returned to Apple, according to Walter Isaacson's biography Steve Jobs, the company was a "paragon of dysfunctional management and fumbled techno-dreams, back in crisis mode, scrambling lugubriously in slow motion to deal with imploding sales, a floundering technology strategy, and a hemorrhaging brand name." 

Jobs needed to make decisions. Fast. And he did.

But he wasn't born with the ability to imagine and create great products. He developed expertise and experience. He relentlessly thought, explored, practiced, and analyzed the results so he could continue to build mastery.

 

Which allowed him, when he needed it most, to know, even though, at the moment, he may not have known why he knew.

And so can you.

But not because you're lucky, but because you put in the time to practice and gain experience that allows you to know why, later, you knew you were right.

One way to create neural chunks is to follow Adam Grant's simple three-step process:

1. Learn something, and then quiz yourself. Quizzing helps you practice retrieving information 

2. Teach someone else. Research shows that even just expecting to teach helps you learn more effectively.

3. Connect what you've learned to something you already know. "Associative learning" not only creates context and meaning, but it also allows you to only need to remember differences and nuances. (Which is how chess grandmasters can play blindfolded.)

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Microhabits for Successful Life

Breakthroughs don’t change your life. Micro habits do.

Benjamin Hardy compares this concept to compounding interest, and how, given the choice, most people would take $1,000,000 in their bank account right now as opposed to a penny that doubles in value over the month.

What most people don’t realize is that those who take the big payout end up with significantly less money than those who opt for the cent per day. He explains: “The doubling penny actually ends up being 10.7 million dollars. Yet, the majority of the growth happens at the very end, and most people aren’t patient enough for the big return. They live for the moment the culture of today stops people from investing.”

The point is that if you want to have a completely different life in a year or two, you need to start now, and you need to start small. Here, are impactful micro habits you can begin tonight.

1. Try to be rejected more. 

Every day, reach out to one or two people who you’d like to work with, even if you are certain they would have no reason to respond.

It could be a potential employer, Good Luck organization at which you’d like to speak, or even a book agent, or client you’d love to work with. You might not hear back at first, but eventually, you will get a response from someone. You have nothing to lose, but potentially a lot to gain.

2. Write one paragraph.

Whether you have a book you’ve always dreamt of authoring, a business plan that’s been in the back of your mind for a while, or even just a blog you want to start, write just a few sentences each day. The momentum will build on its own and you’ll find yourself effortlessly writing more and more… but commit to just beginning with one paragraph.

3. Check your bank account.

Make it a habit to check in on all of your accounts at least once a day. If that sounds like a lot, it’s because it is. But what’s important is that you’re keeping yourself aware of exactly what you have, and where it’s going. Getting a better grip on your finances begins with having a consistently accurate mental layout of your accounts.

4. Get used to maintenance.

Aspirational tropes want you to believe that living your best life is like running a victory lap every day. In reality, it is more like being willing to tend to the unglamorous maintenance of things, like chores, cleaning, healthy cooking, staying current on bills and work assignments, or making time for exercise.

The quality of your life will be directly and drastically improved if you can incorporate necessary maintenance into your daily routine, and learn to see it as something that helps you rather than hinders you from having a great time.

5. Choose comfort for your future self over comfort right now. 

If you want to change your life, you need to start considering the needs and wants of your future self over the ones you have right now. Prioritizing how you feel and what you want at the moment is what lead you here. Instead, commit to making choices for the benefit of your future self. The idea that “being present” means disregarding anything but your most base instincts and desires is not enlightenment, it is self-destruction.

6. Be more responsive. 

If someone sends a text, answer it when you see it. As often as you are able, respond to important emails as they come in. This will ensure that you aren’t left with a backlog of work that needs to be tended to.

7. Be less reactive.

When you see or hear something that immediately enrages you or upsets you (even if it’s just a negative thought that crops up in your head) before reacting to it and pouring your energy into it, question it. Figure out where it came from, and ask yourself whom your reaction to it would serve. Learning to take that micro-pause between a stimulus and your response will change the way you look at everything.

8. Fulfill your base needs.

You are not a machine, but in some ways, your body and life do require that you feel it in certain ways to keep it running. Eat when you are hungry. Sleep when you are tired. Trying to deny the importance of your most basic requirements for functioning does not mean you are busy and important, it means you are ignorant and setting yourself up for a breakdown or burnout.

9. Curate your sphere of influence.

You know that the people you spend the most time with have a significant impact on who you will become.

But do you also realize that what you are surrounding yourself with and putting into your head is having just as much, if not even more, of an effect on you? Take a serious look at who you follow online and what their presence on your newsfeed does for you, or perhaps how cluttered your home or office space is. This is your environment, and it is having a silent, and often subconscious, impact on you at all times.

10. Take action when you want to do something.

In Mel Robbin’s The 5 Second Rule, she explains that a lot of what holds people back in those few seconds between when you have an amazing idea, and when your brain interferes. She says that to really move your life forward, you need to act on your ideas before you convince yourself not to.

11. Take action when you don’t.

At the same time, it’s imperative to learn that just because you do not feel like doing something does not mean you are incapable of doing it. Your feelings do not impact your ability.

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Never Give Up

Affirmations that will change your Life

If you believe the phrase you are what you think, then life truly stems from your thoughts. But we cannot rely purely on thoughts; we must translate thoughts into words and eventually into actions in order to manifest our intentions. This means we have to be very careful with our words, choosing to speak only those which work towards our benefit and cultivate our highest good. Affirmations help purify our thoughts and restructure the dynamic of our brains so that we truly begin to think nothing is impossible. The word affirmation comes from the Latin affirmare, originally meaning "to make steady, strengthen."

Affirmations do indeed strengthen us by helping us believe in the potential of an action we desire to manifest. When we verbally affirm our dreams and ambitions, we are instantly empowered with a deep sense of reassurance that our wishful words will become reality.

Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains. Much like exercise, they raise the level of feel-good hormones and push our brains to form new clusters of "positive thoughts" neurons. In the sequence of thought-speech-action, affirmations play an integral role by breaking patterns of negative thoughts, negative speech, and, in turn, negative actions.

The art of the spoken word is critical in crafting our futures. it is my firm belief and experience that we influence the universe word by word. If we dictate to it our wishes, it will respond. When we utter a sound, we emit a sound wave into the universe. This sound wave pierces through the air and becomes a real object. It therefore exists in our world, intangible and invisible. No words are empty words, as every syllable we speak engages energy towards or against us. If you constantly say "I can't," the energy of your words will repel the universal force against you. But if you say "I can!" the universe will endow you with the abilities to do just that. So speak away; relinquish your fears and purge your anger, predict your own future and live up to your potential with the affirmations that will change your life:Here I am listing few -

1.) I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents.

2.) Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy.

3.) My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.

4.) I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions.

5.) I have been given endless talents which I begin to utilize today.

6.) I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.

7.) A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love.

8.) I am guided in my every step by Spirit who leads me towards what I must know and do.

9.) (If you're married) My marriage is becoming stronger, deeper, and more stable each day.

10.) I possess the qualities needed to be extremely successful.

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Banish Depression From Your System

We need to understand what depression is. Now, what is a “low”? What is it that happens within you? Fundamentally, you expected something to happen and it did not happen. You expected somebody or something to be your way or the world or the destiny to be your way, and it did not happen. In other words, you are simply against what is happening; that’s all. Maybe you are against a person, maybe you are against a whole situation, maybe you are against life itself. Accordingly, the depression will run deeper and deeper.

Why are you against something? Only because things did not go your way, isn’t it? Why should the whole world go your way? Please know, the world does not go your stupid way. Either you have no faith in the creator or you have no acceptance, or both, and you have a hyper-sensitive ego. That is why you get depressed.

Depression makes you cynical and is deeply self damaging. Depressed people only hurt themselves more. Killing need not necessarily mean physical killing. A depressed person is always trying to cause more damage to himself. A man who goes out with the sword and kills somebody, his ego is not as sensitive and it does not need as much nurturing as a depressed man’s ego. The violent man can be very easily settled. Have you seen this on the streets? When people get into a fight, if there is one man with a little wisdom, if he just handles them right, those people who are trying to kill each other one moment, the next moment, they will drop it and become friends and go off. But this is not so with the depressed person. He will carry this for life. Whether they do it consciously or not, these people go on sharpening their knife and cutting their own heart. Why will a person go on hurting himself? Generally it is to get sympathy. For a very depressed person, normal sympathy is not sufficient; somebody should bleed with him.

Now what is there in you that can get hurt? If I beat your body with a stick, the body will get hurt; that’s different. Otherwise, what is it that gets hurt within you? Just the ego, isn’t it? The mind and the inner nature cannot get hurt. It is only the ego tgat gets hurt . So if you are saying, “I want to grow,” growth means going beyond this, trampling your ego and going ahead.

One can make any emotion into a creative force in their life. If your sadness reminds you that you are incomplete, it is good; make use of your sadness to grow. But, when you get sad, if you are going to get irritable and angry, and that whole world is wrong, you are a fool. Do you want to make this sadness into anger or into love and compassion? It is very easy when you are sad, to become compassionate. It is already a dissolving kind of energy; you can use it for further dissolution which leads you to your ultimate well-being.

Depression makes you cynical and is deeply self- damaging. Depressed people only hurt themselves more.

The unfortunate reality with people right now is that their humanity will function only when they are mauled by life. For most people, maturity will not happen without knowing sadness and pain. Otherwise they never understand what is happening with them and with anybody else around them.

Depression can be handled at the level of the body, mind and the energies. If the necessary balance and vibrancy is brought about in the physical, mental and energy bodies, to be blissful is very natural. This balance can be achieved through yoga and, meditation. Beside forming some Self- healing groups in society could provide a medium to vent one' s emotions. But first of all we need to accept depression natural and part and parcel of life.If we understand its existence and are deviced to handle it on both inner and outer platform then that necessary balance of life could be attained very smoothly. Because in a blissful being, depression can never exist.